Learning to Live… Through Jesus, Our Neighbours and Each Other

THE REFORMER OR PERFECTIONIST

‘A reflection of God’s goodness and rightness.’

ONES are attracted to and value goodness. They believe life is about doing your best, setting high standards and goals and living up to them.  They can become perfectionists and as a result, they develop a fear of failure and an incessant need to be perfect and good enough.  There is always room for improvement for ONES. They are critical toward others’ mistakes and especially critical toward their own. Their drive for perfection often leads them to reform what is broken and can be a blessing. However, it can also be a burden, leading to a deep sense of anger and guilt.

God has given ONES particular gifts that uniquely express His image to the world. When emotionally and spiritually healthy, ONES live with conviction, are bold and courageous, are willing to take a stand and sacrifice themselves for what’s right, and keep the mission of God moving forward; they are sensible, responsible, ethical, self-disciplined, just, fair, tolerant of failure—both theirs and others—and accepting of their limits and losses.  Healthy ONES are grace-driven, not guilt-driven.

The lies ONES believe: “It’s not ok to make a mistake.  I have to be perfect.”

The truth ONES need: “You are loved for who you are, not how good you are.”

The apostle Paul was a ONE.  He went from being a strict, uncompromising legalist to being an apostle of the heart set free.  He knew about the joy and freedom of living in grace.

       But God said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me. (2 Corinthians 12.9)

When healthy, a ONE takes on the mature characteristics of a SEVEN (The Enthusiast). So a Sabbath day for a One would mean there’s no to-do list. Be spontaneous. Go on an adventure. Try something new. Get out of your comfort zone. Make a plan of making no plans and go with the flow. See what happens. If you’re able, be present with children (who tend to resist being controlled). Write a poem and be happy with the first draft. Create something for the sake of enjoying yourself, all the while resisting the urge to tinker and perfect.

Famous ONES:  Augustine, Anne Frank, Anderson Cooper, Julie Andrews.  One website also named the ‘culture of the Amish’ as a ONE.

Favourite song:  ‘Nobody does it better’  – Carly Simon.

 

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